For the last couple years I always sat back amazed at my sister Becca who would dissolve problems between our oldest children who are not even two days apart in age.
When our kids would fight over a toy she would start singing “You can take a turn, and then I’ll give it back” and they would almost immediately jump in singing and taking turns became a game.
When they got mad she would start singing “If you’re feeling mad and you want to roar… take a deep breath and count to four – 1 -2 -3- 4.” And they calmed down and started counting.
When we were about to leave the park she would sing, “It’s almost time to go, so choose one more thing to do. That was fun and now we’re through.”
I learned techniques similar to this in my under-grad and my teaching experience so I always sat back amazed that she would handle guidance in such an age-approriate way!
After about six months of enjoying her little songs, we finally discovered “Daniel Tiger” (The PBS TV show) I finally made the connection, calling my sister on the phone saying, “BECCA! Hahah I am just now figuring it out! I love it! You stole (“borrowed”) those guidance techniques from the show – you are so smart!”
It’s funny because experts help write kid-friendly series to make them educational and some people treat TV like it is the devil. Or, you feel like you are a bad parent if your kids watch TV – NOT TRUE! There are plenty of shows (especially on PBS kids) that are beneficial for kids – especially when you watch them, pause them, discuss them, dialogue with your kids about them, and even use some of the same tips in your parenting.
I tell Sean Patrick all the time not to take things out of someone else’s hands because he doesn’t want to be a swiper (Dora).
Or if he wants all the toys to himself I tell him to share like Jake not to be greedy like Captain Hook (Jake and the Neverland Pirates)
Here is a guidance song that I didn’t know as well, but it is something we experience every day with our little ones:
And here is another on feelings:
Are there any quotes/songs from TV shows your kids watch that have helped your parenting?
…and a complete new behavior modification system to discourage future closet explosions.
I introduce to you…
The Room Rating
(located right outside of their bedroom door for those times when it is so messy I can’t even walk into it)
Green: Mommy approves!
Yellow: Slightly messy. You will have to clean it before bed.
Red: Total wreck. You may not come out of your room until it is clean.
or, according to my husband,
Green: Mommy approves!
Yellow: Daddy approves!
Red: Just shut the door.
I was looking for a dry erase board to put on my clipboard, but found this doodle pad instead! And then I thought that this is pretty genius so I don’t have to leave a marker within reach of the kids… I’d definitely have another mess to clean up! I used Command strips to secure it to the clipboard.
Check back in with me in a week and let’s see if we stick to this! So far, the kids are excited about trying to keep it on green! Green = Clean! Say it with me! Green = Clean!
Everything is nice and neat, and labeled by size and article of clothing so that they can read the tags on their clothes to determine who they belong to. Once they are sorted, they know exactly where they need to go! Definitely encouraging some independence (and help around the house) here!
4T, 5T, XS = L’s clothes
6+, S+ = J’s clothes
Oh, and another thing new we’re trying? Bins for BIG TOYS and bins for small toys.
No more organizing by type of toy for us. It was just taking way too long to clean. The new rule is that if it is larger than your hand, it goes in the bin for BIG TOYS. If it is smaller than your hand, it goes in the bin for small toys.
And BONUS x 2! All these labels are GREAT for increasing print awareness for my 4 year old and encouraging reading for my 6 year old!